Live and Let Live

I’m struggling with how to keep my nose out of other people’s drama even when I’m pulled into it. And how to keep a friendship going when I resent the fact I was pulled into their fears and worries. How to balance friendship advice and my own recovery. I tend to want to help, fix the problems of people I love and I have to resist that impulse. But I do get sucked in when someone comes to me with concern or fear. And I give my experience as advice. Advice which is not well received usually. And then I feel betrayed somehow. Why ask me then if they don’t want to hear what I have to say. For my own sake I need to resist the impulse to react and respond. Sometime I feel like I’m 12 again learning how to interact with others. When I looked into this problem from an Al-Anon point of view, “Live and let Live” popped up. This is the slogan I should be repeating. Buddy T says that after years of living somebody's else life and looking after others it was hard to look just after Buddy T. I feel the same way easy for me to worry about everyone else. Hard for me to take care of me. So I will keep exploring and trying not to give advice from my own experiences that are very unhealthy. I have to find the way to balance . Because what I feel today is not healthy or fun.